A few weeks ago, I was lying in bed watching The Real Housewives of Dubai. I know trash TV, but it’s my thing and it relaxes me. Don’t ask me why. One of the housewives, Lesa Milan, was doing an interview saying how she felt her sons being of color were safer on the streets of Dubai than in America. I was deeply saddened by this notion. I wondered if Dubai was a safe place for a woman. Is Dubai different from other countries in the middle east? On my TV screen, it seems they have evolved. Women can run businesses, wear whatever they want, and appear to be live their lives freely. I started looking up women’s reproductive rights in Dubai. It was downright scary. Stories of women trying to flee the country, because it’s illegal to be pregnant and unmarried. There are also stories of women fleeing this country to other neighboring countries to have a safe abortion or risking their lives to do it unsafely in Dubai. I shook my head, thanked God that I live here in America, rolled over and went sleep.
Fast forward to today, I am living in a time warp. Kayleigh McEany is gleefully sitting on my TV telling women that they should not feel in control of their bodies if another life is in them. She is pregnant and happy. If you are pregnant then you should be happy. Lets’ forget that her net worth is around a million dollars, maybe 2 and her estimated monthly salary is $28,960. By her definition, a heartbeat and different DNA other than your own constitutes a woman losing her right to her body and what is in in it. Perhaps, we should let all things with different DNA live in our bodies, they may not have a heartbeat, but they may be entitled to my body. A parasite’s paradise. Women, after all are only incubators, after that these kids are born, they are on their own.
What is so disturbing, is beyond that fact we are taking a service away from women’s health is that there is no support for women to have babies. My body or anyone’s body should not be a political debate on health care choices. I would never tell a stage 4 cancer patient that they should seek aggressive treatment or seek palliative care. All, I can do as a registered nurse is educate a patient on their choices. The fact that we live a developed country with the worst maternal care and that has an incredibly high rate of pregnancy related deaths should speak volumes to people. Now, we are adding another element to killing off women. Maybe if we had a better system to help mothers make a choice that supports them no matter what they choose, we would see more births and less death. Not only do we lack safe health care for women, we lack paid maternal leave like other developed nations. If we could help mothers ease that financial burden and provide emotional support, we could decrease abortions. As Christian, I don’t judge others and would never force someone to have a baby. These lawmakers are actually playing God by forcing life, yet offering no help after this life is born. Yet, they will sleep better at night. If there are women with their children lining the streets in poverty, they can rest easily knowing they saved a life. Let’s forget all the women that will be dying from unsafe abortions, their lives don’t matter. They should have had that baby and they deserved it. These women that will die having illegal abortions are also God’s children and someone’s child. Welcome to America, we value life above all else but our states determine what lives are valuable.
Let’s discuss how women can go to neighboring states to receive a healthcare service. What’s the big deal, right? One of the main culprits to the U.S. having the worst maternal care is that we do not have enough OBGYNs or midwives. Now, let’s send all of these women to these neighboring states and overwhelm the system, if they can even get an appointment. Will insurance cover these out of state visits? This will vary and will cost more for women out of pocket on top of travel expenses. If they can’t afford this then they may opt for a back-alley abortion or perhaps a YouTube DIY video will come about to help women. Better, yet maybe all of these God-fearing politicians will adopt these babies. After all they only want what is best for your body and your baby.
Women should have no fear having a baby in the United States of America. We offer safe maternal care and amazing paid maternity leave like other countries around the world. Oh, wait we don’t offer any type of paid maternity leave. It’s awfully embarrassing to live in one of the greatest countries in the world that holds no value in our mothers or how this is important to our children. The time for mothers to heal after birth, to establish a bond with their babies, and establish breastfeeding if they choose to do so is just a pipeline dream. We expect moms to go back to work after 6-8 weeks and trust their babies with complete strangers while pumping at work.
Women deserve much more respect to make decisions regarding their health. In overturning Roe vs. Wade, men can still walk away from their responsibility and go on to live their lives. I propose that any man that does not support a woman he impregnates, gets a mandated vasectomy. Sounds stupid, right? If the government, pushed this there would be bigger outrage.
I still cannot believe this is happening in America. What will be taken away next? Whatever your political or religious views are, I implore you to think about if one of your rights were taken away? Going to pour myself a glass of wine now, before the prohibition starts again.